7: How to Recognize the Strengths You Can’t See in Yourself

Lean Into What You’re Good At

It’s hard to see ourselves clearly. We’re too close to our own strengths, and what’s natural to us doesn’t feel special.

We brush things off by saying things like “Oh, that was nothing” or “I just threw that together” without realizing that what feels easy for us might look impressive to someone else.

The truth is that what comes easily to you probably doesn’t come easily to other people.

Why We Downplay Our Strengths

Most of us have spent years adapting, juggling responsibilities, and doing a bit of everything. Over time, those skills pile up quietly in the background. We get good at things without even realizing it because we’ve done them so often.

But just because something comes easily doesn’t mean it’s ordinary.

Think about times someone complimented you and you shrugged it off. They took the time to notice. That means it was a big deal.

A Real-Life Example

Just the other day, a friend of ours gave us the most beautiful pumpkin cupcakes. Perfectly piped icing. They looked straight out of a bakery display case.

If she hadn’t said a word, I would have thought she bought them.

That’s her strength, creating something beautiful with ease. Me? I can handle dinner, but baking isn’t my lane. I don’t have the patience for icing bags or decorative touches.

Her “no big deal” cupcakes stopped me in my tracks. What feels simple to her would have taken me hours. That’s the point. What’s effortless for one person is extraordinary for someone else.

Turn Your Strengths Into Experiments

Once you start recognizing your strengths, don’t overthink how to use them. Test them in small, low-pressure ways.

If you’re organized, help a friend plan her move or create a simple closet system.
If you’re people-oriented, host a group chat, dinner, or local meetup for women who share your interests.
If you’re creative, draw, write, bake, or craft and share it online. You might be surprised who connects with it.

A friend of mine hosts monthly dinners for five women entrepreneurs. She’s a natural connector, and that’s how she leans into her gift. It’s simple, powerful, and builds community.

You don’t need a business plan to start. You just need to notice what flows and build from there.

The “Ask Your Friends” Challenge

This week, try something new. Ask three people what they think you’re naturally good at.

Don’t explain or qualify: just listen.
Ask questions like:
“When you think of me, what comes to mind?”
“What do you think I’m naturally good at?”
“What advice have I helped you with before?”

Write down their answers. Circle anything that repeats.

If multiple people see the same thing in you, and you feel that same pull yourself, that’s a sign. Those overlapping themes often point straight toward your next direction.

Build on What’s Already Working

You don’t need to reinvent yourself.
Just build on what’s already there.

Start small. Do more of what feels natural. The things that come easily to you are often the things that make the biggest difference for others.

Before You Go

Lean into what you’re good at. Notice what feels effortless. If it’s easy for you, it’s probably valuable to someone else.

All the resources mentioned today, including the Second Act Pathfinder, a free custom tool to help you identify and act on your strengths, are linked in the show notes.

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Show Notes

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